In the past 48 hours, I’ve gotten a disturbing number of emails and messages from followers saying their partner is using the vaccine against them. I wanted to address this head on. There have been three scenarios, thus far, brought to my attention from a multitude of followers:
I recognize the positive intent of this message. That said, as a victim of DV and a person trying to coparent with their abuser, I would ask that you consider being a little more careful about the framing of this message.
DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) is a really effective tactic that is frequently used by abusers. Currently my abuser is trying to paint me as a control freak, when really my goal is to prevent him from doing unnecessarily risky behaviors (he takes our child to parties with multiple households of unmasked individuals and took our child to Arizona and then Mexico at the height of the pandemic). My experience is that these kinds of statements condemning abuse often do more harm than good, *unless* they also contain a description of DARVO and how it is used against victims.
Research has shown that DARVO is unfortunately extremely effective, but education on DARVO can reduce the negative impacts on victims.
Again, I really appreciate the sentiment and the intent here, and I really appreciate the work you do educating us.
Weird place to ask, but how do you message YLE about items unrelated to these articles? I am curious about the timeline for clearance for pediatric vaccines mentioned in this article:
As both a man and a nurse, if your male partner refuses to acknowledge that vaccine "shedding" is a myth and conspiracy theory, then I would suggest it's time to find a smarter partner to share your life with. Beauty is only skin deep but ignorance is to the bone.
I recognize the positive intent of this message. That said, as a victim of DV and a person trying to coparent with their abuser, I would ask that you consider being a little more careful about the framing of this message.
DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) is a really effective tactic that is frequently used by abusers. Currently my abuser is trying to paint me as a control freak, when really my goal is to prevent him from doing unnecessarily risky behaviors (he takes our child to parties with multiple households of unmasked individuals and took our child to Arizona and then Mexico at the height of the pandemic). My experience is that these kinds of statements condemning abuse often do more harm than good, *unless* they also contain a description of DARVO and how it is used against victims.
Research has shown that DARVO is unfortunately extremely effective, but education on DARVO can reduce the negative impacts on victims.
Again, I really appreciate the sentiment and the intent here, and I really appreciate the work you do educating us.
Here is a link to just one study: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10926771.2020.1774695
Weird place to ask, but how do you message YLE about items unrelated to these articles? I am curious about the timeline for clearance for pediatric vaccines mentioned in this article:
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/04/health/pfizer-vaccine-children-approval.html
but not sure how to message you except by using these comments!
you can email me at yourlocalepidemiologist@gmail.com!
As both a man and a nurse, if your male partner refuses to acknowledge that vaccine "shedding" is a myth and conspiracy theory, then I would suggest it's time to find a smarter partner to share your life with. Beauty is only skin deep but ignorance is to the bone.
I understand and agree with the sentiment, but it is not always possible to leave.